2021.10.27 13:26 throwRAm2f2 My (M29) GF (F30) wants me to help pay for her mortgage but living as a tenant.
GF and I have been dating since we were 16 and 17. We both have dated no one else. (ignoring the 3 day GF I had when I was 16 lol). We both started living together when we were around 19. Mostly everything has been great, other than the minor problems every couple has now and then. The support for each other, love, and just the overall chemistry between us have been great so far.
The issue in the title popped up recently. For most of our lives, we have lived on rent and moved places every 1-3 years. This moving is mostly because of me and that's just how I wanted to live in my early to mid-twenties. I know it was stupid and expensive, but yolo. We both finally decided to find a place and settle. All good up to this point.
My GF found a house she really liked and she decided to get a mortgage on it. When she told me this, I told her we can just buy the house if we both pool our money together. The ratio of the amount was about 70-30. She refused this idea. She told me she wants the house in her name and that she'll finance it. To be honest I knew she would have a really hard time affording it on her own and I did bring this to her attention. Her solution was that since we live together I'll pay her rent and that would make it easy for her to pay her mortgage and that I can use my money to help her renovate the house. Once we get married I can get my name on it too.
Look I love this woman to bits but I'm not stupid. I told her no. I told her that if she doesn't want to buy the house together, I'll look for one for myself because at the end of the day I also want a home.
We talked about this in detail and she remained persistent on her way. She said if I want us to buy a house together we need to become Mr Mrs (last name) first. We both initially planned on getting married in our mid-thirties and we already have had conversations regarding that so I don't understand her rush. It's not like I'm going anywhere.
The only plausible explanation I have thought of is that she feels financially insecure because of our salary disparity. I asked her if that was the case and she declined. Other than this I'm blank. I understand that buying something this huge is a big deal but her wanting me to spend my money on something that I won't even own is kinda ridiculous to me and to her too (I could tell by her body language when she asked me this)
We have talked about this several times and we always reach an impasse. She has said some reason why she wants to do it this way. All those reasons are completely valid but when I just reverse them and we look at them from my perspective, then it is me who gets screwed. When I talk about this, her response is that I can figure out something and will still be better of than if it was her.
This one thing is causing a lot of strain on our relationship. I'm ready to compromise if that compromise is fair, but she not willing to budge has caused us to come to a stalemate.
I have thought and tried every reasonable way to solve this but to no avail. Advice on how should I proceed with this matter. Kindly refrain from all the breaking up advice and calling us stuff. I don't know if this is the right subreddit for this so if there is any other do mention.
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2021.10.27 13:26 alyklatt Question about the scientist career in get to work
Get to work is the next EP on my shopping list- and I’ve been watching kelsey dangerous’ not so berry…this isn’t the first not so berry I’ve watched and my question is does the scientist career make you be lowkey evil every time??? With the mind control and the freeze ray?
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2021.10.27 13:26 lexokream Does the Ice Crystal Core exist?
I grinder my Arcana to lvl 200 in order to craft the legendary 600 gear score Ice Gauntlet Crystalline Curse.
I have gathered all of the material all that is missing now is 1 Ice Crystal Core.
I have looked in the trading post and it is unable to be searched. I do not know anyone that has found one. No information online on people obtaining it.
Do you know anyone who has obtained any of the Crystal Cores?
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2021.10.27 13:26 KAZU0_8071 Bye bye oldtypes!
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2021.10.27 13:26 novacharger64 [20M] Looking to make some new friends!! (:
My name is Lee, and I’m a Korean-American studying Political Science and Public Policy with my sights set on law school afterwards. I’m kind of a mix between an introvert and extrovert. I won’t say no if my friends want to go out (for the most part), but I wouldn’t be opposed to staying back haha.
My hobbies are pretty introverted at the moment thanks to all the alone time from quarantining. These hobbies include playing games on my Nintendo Switch, watching anime, reading manga/manhua, watching Twitch, or playing Magic (EDH). However, I do also like a variety of other things like hiking, car trips, and cooking (although I’m not very good at it LMAO).
I’m pretty laid back, so feel free to send me a message if we share any hobbies!
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2021.10.27 13:26 Silentdrew My late Grandfathers' two Rolexes - not sure what to do with these...
| hey everyone, these are my late Grandfather's two Rolex watches. I took them to Rolex in NYC for service and repair, but they won't deal with them because they are 'vintage'. Whats the deal with that? I'd think a quality brand would want to continue servicing their customers for life. Anyway, just wanted to share...|
I think this one is 1968 Model 1625, is there a good leather replacement strap for this?
I think this one is 1967 Model 1601. The bracelet is really loose on this and am afraid to wear it.
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2021.10.27 13:26 FriendlyOl_Lad Anyone else get this weird feeling like your living in some parallel universe?
I've been raving for a decade now and I've never really understood this but when I get back from festivals I always have this weird feeling that lasts days to a little over a week where I feel like I'm just completely out of place. I don't know how to describe it best but I feel like I'm in some parallel universe and even being at home or work, things just feel off and not like the normal home that I'm used to living in. It's like nothing has the familiarity that it did before but it eventually always comes back. I always assume it's from rolling but this year I only did a small amount on Saturday and still have the feeling now that I'm home. I wouldn't really file this under the "post rave depression" because sometimes I'm not even really down or sad, just feeling odd. Like an imposter or something. Anyone else ever feel super out of place for a while after festivals? If so, do yall get this feeling even if you go sober?
Maybe I'll experiment and go to my next fest completely sober and see if it still happens 🤷
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